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Hey Amy!
I’m glad that narrowing down your CDFs is showing you where there’s opportunity to get your needs met in the here and now. I’ve known a number of introverted Tribe Members, so it’s good that you’re bringing that up! I think people tend to envision Tribe Members as more naturally extroverted, but they can definitely be either. And an introverted Tribe Member’s desire for connection is just as necessary and valid, though it might get met in a slightly different way than an extrovert would.
And as for the purposeful/interested piece, keep in mind that just because people around you find the mission purposeful or interesting doesn’t mean that you will, or have to. I know that doesn’t solve the immediate problem, but I think a lot of people get hung up on wondering why they aren’t as jazzed about the work as the people around them, and as long as they’re focusing on that, they aren’t able to give themselves permission to let go and let other ideas/opportunities come to them. So, this may not be a problem that needs fixing! It would be perfectly understandable if you just aren’t feeling it.
I love this synchronous course of events, Sacha! It sounds to me like the Universe is REALLY trying to double-down on encouraging you to continue on the path that you’re on–confronting your limiting beliefs and making space for all of your disparate feelings! It’s basically cheerleading you left and right with all of these synchronicities!
These are wonderful, Sacha, thank you for sharing! You did a great job in bringing them to life and making them very well-rounded. I have a very clear picture of what you’re looking to feel after reading this! And I also want to touch on your realization about what Purposeful means (aka, that you “should” feel purposeful if the job you’re doing is for a worthy cause)–yes! Just because something is noble or doing good in the world does NOT mean that you will feel emotionally connected to it, and that’s completely OK. I hope hearing that will give anyone else struggling with that same notion permission to let it go. 🙂
Ooh, thanks for the recommendation, Sacha! This sounds really interesting, and I’d love to learn more about this kind of meditation!
Hey Amy,
It’s perfectly understandable that it’s difficult to talk to your gremlin when you feel like you don’t have a firm grasp on what you want. In that case, you’re right! It would be easy for anyone’s gremlin to talk them into or out of things. What’s that old phrase? “When you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything?”
My recommendation would be for you to work through the Week 2 content, then revisit this issue. Week 2 is all about getting a firm grasp on your core values–aka, what you want, on a deep level. I think that might help you have more of a leg to stand on when it comes to holding firm with your gremlin and not allowing it to sway you!
Just know that this is perfectly normal, and that you WILL get better at being able to listen to your gremlin without buying in to what it’s saying or going along with everything it suggests!
Welcome, Caryn!
Love that you joined us at the buzzer! 😉
I’m sad that The Office gives you anxiety, because it’s such a good show! But I totally get how it would sort of be like PTSD after working in an environment too similar to that, that you never want to experience again if you can avoid it.
I like the fact that you have a longer timeline on figuring things out. Obviously it’d be nice to have more direction well before your daughter goes to college (and I’m sure you will), but the less pressure we can put on ourselves to figure things out in a specific timeline, the better! It gives us room to explore and try things out without feeling the need to commit to any one thing right away.
You definitely married a jackhammer! And it makes sense why his joy would be a little overwhelming. Like, whoa! Am I supposed to feel this way about something, too?? I’m glad you know your experience doesn’t have to look like his!
Hi Stacey,
That’s a great question!
Yes, I think the opposite is totally possible. While I think self-worth/self-confidence are intrinsically wrapped up in each other and one does often imply the other, I’ve also seen plenty of examples with my clients of people who had a more solid footing in one area, but struggled in the other.
In terms of strong self-wort but lack of confidence, I see that trend most often showing up in people who innately know that they’re smart, capable, lovable, etc., but who don’t trust other people to see or acknowledge that. So in that way, their outer confidence can take a hit, because they may try to adapt to what they think someone else wants from them, all the while knowing internally who they really are and what they’re truly worth.
Put in even simpler terms, I think self-worth is often an inner game, and self-confidence is often an external game. Self-worth is what you feel (or don’t feel) on the inside, while self-confidence is what you do (or don’t) project on the outside. I’m open to being wrong about that, but that’s how I see it in my mind, at least!
Hi Dianna!
Kristen and I have met a lot of teachers over the years, and it’s frustrating to hear about how many of them are burnt out! I feel like it could be possible for people to really enjoy teaching and want to stick with it, but so many end up wanting or needing to get out because of how draining and demanding it is. Though, I will say that I’ve also worked with some clients who are teachers, and we’ve been able to address a lot of that burnout by changing the way they relate to their job. Things like setting boundaries, releasing people-pleasing tendencies, etc., can go a long way toward reenergizing a person!
In a way, it’s comforting to know that you’re not way off in left field. You’ve already found yourself in careers that are naturally aligned with your personality type, which is important! Now it’s just a matter of refining your options and getting clearer about what’s going to fulfill you on the deepest levels. 🙂
Hey JoAnn,
I know you’re a Thriver, so it makes sense that so much of what you’re saying here aligns with your Passion Profile! It’s very understandable to want to like your job, though, even if you don’t need it to be your passion. I suspect that once you confront some fears/core beliefs and dig deeper into your value system, you’ll get clearer on what it will take for you to enjoy a job, and consequently squeeze more enjoyment out of your whole life! 🙂
