Hey Mary — It’s a challenge for ALL of us to stop nitpicking and replaying what we did or didn’t say/do over and over again. Again, I think that partially stems from a fear of getting it “wrong” and irrevocably messing your life up. It’s your gremlin trying (not doing a very good job, but trying nonetheless) to keep you safe. It’s fine to look back and assess how you could have done differently (just without the lens of hyper-critical judgment and self-effacement)! Enjoy your cupcake! 😉